You’re Not Too Much 💌
Somewhere along the way, many of us began carrying a quiet guilt.
Especially if you grew up in a family where love came with conditions — spoken or unspoken.
Maybe you’ve heard lines like:
“Do you know how much I’ve sacrificed for you?”
“We’re not rich — we gave up so much just to raise you.”
“If it weren’t for you, I could’ve chased my dreams.”
And while these may have been said in moments of stress or exhaustion, they leave an imprint — especially on emotionally sensitive children.
And so, many of us began to think:
Maybe I shouldn’t take up too much space.
Maybe I should grow up faster, work harder, make life easier for the people around me.
Not good. Not bad. Just… what we learnt.
But now that we’re older — do you still notice it?
Do you:
🙇♀️ Apologise for expressing basic needs?
🧍 Hesitate to ask for help, even when you’re struggling?
🤐 Feel like a nuisance when plans have to shift because of you?
🪑 Voluntarily step aside when space is limited, even when no one asked?
And have you ever felt a strange discomfort — maybe even jealousy or anger — when someone else says:
“It’s so hot, let’s move to the shade.”
“I’m not feeling up for it today. You go ahead, I’ll sit this one out.”
“Actually… I’d prefer not to share that.”
Something in you feels triggered — not because they did something wrong, but because…
💭 They voiced a need. Without guilt. Without shame.
And somehow, that feels outrageous. How dare they put themselves first?
But here’s a question to consider:
🌱 Why do you think your needs are a problem?
🌱 Why do you believe that others accommodating you is an inconvenience?
🌱 And when did you start equating needs… with being too much?
💌 Needs Are Invitations, Not Demands
Let’s gently reframe.
Voicing your need isn’t a disturbance.
It’s an invitation — to deeper understanding, to authentic connection.
Not everyone will accept the invitation.
Not everyone has to.
But that doesn’t make your offering any less valid.
Or you any less worthy 💖
And when someone does meet you there, in that soft shared space?
✨ That’s a connection worth cherishing ✨
🪞 Your Turn
Can you recall a time when you silenced your needs — thinking they were too much?
And if you had voiced them gently, with love… what might have happened instead?