Forgive, Not to Forget — But to Be Free 🕊️

Forgiveness often sounds like something noble… maybe even “spiritual”.

But for those of us who are healing, the word can feel heavy — loaded with pressure, expectations, and unresolved emotions.

So here’s a gentle reminder for the humble hearts out there:

✨ Forgiveness is not about moral superiority.

It’s about setting both parties free.

Not because you should.

Not because it’s the “right” thing to do.

But because you’re ready to loosen the grip — not just on them, but on the pain you’ve been holding 🐣

It’s Okay If You’re Not Ready 💭

This isn’t a call to force yourself.

If you’re still sitting with the pain — that’s okay ✅

If you’re still carrying the weight — that’s okay too ✅

🕊️ Forgiveness isn’t authentic unless it comes from a place of readiness.

It happens when you’re ready to let go — not because you’re trying to be a better person on paper, or living up to the idea of being “spiritually evolved”.

Sometimes the kindest thing you can do is not to forgive just yet — but to hold your pain with gentleness until it’s ready to soften.

Don’t Cling to the Story That Keeps You Small 🐁

Yes, maybe you were wronged.

Maybe they never apologised.

Maybe you were the one who gave too much, too often, for too long.

You’re allowed to acknowledge all of that.

But staying tied to the identity of the victim forever?

That keeps your story stuck in one chapter.

Forgiveness doesn’t erase what happened.

It simply says: “This no longer defines who I am” 🔥🔥🔥

And Then… There’s Forgiving Yourself 🤍

This might be the hardest part of all.

You may need to forgive yourself for:

• Trusting someone who wasn’t ready to be trusted

• Staying too long in something that was hurting you

• Abandoning yourself just to feel loved

• Choosing silence when you needed to speak

• Not knowing better — before you did

This kind of forgiveness often doesn’t come in a grand moment.

It comes quietly, in the middle of everyday life, when something pokes an old wound.

That’s when you realise:

You’re still carrying something that doesn’t need to come with you anymore.

Closing Thought 🌸

We are all someone’s villain.

We are also someone’s healing.

We are all in progress.

So if you ever find it hard to forgive — either yourself or another — remember this:

I release the weight of what’s left.

I return what isn’t mine to carry.

I honour the part of me that still remembers,

and I choose to walk forward — with peace.